You might have heard about self-love many times before. But how does self-love mean? What should you do to love yourself more?
For some reason, people tend to find it easy to love others rather than love themselves. They spend more time taking care of children, spouse, family, friends, and their occupation because instinctively, they are likely to think that pleasing others will make them happy.
On the other hand, people are afraid that being self-love is selfish because we love ourselves, not care about others. Self-loving makes us prioritize ourselves, take responsibility for our actions, incorporate our daily routine into a goal, and develop healthy self-esteem instead of comparing to others and letting people know how to treat ourselves the right way.
Self-love allows us to understand ourselves more deeply and treat ourselves with respect and love because we deserve love from ourselves first before giving to others. Learning to self-love takes knowledge and effort, but its benefits are rewarding.
This writing will provide more details about ways to love yourself to achieve happiness and well-being.
1. Be truly present.
“Be truly present at the moment that you are in and don’t let life slip by unnoticed” – Joyce Meyer.
Sometimes we don’t focus on the tasks that we are doing because millions of thoughts are going through in our minds. By being truly present, you will enjoy what you are doing with calmness by being truly present without thinking about anything else.
2. Be honest with yourself.
“Take time to feed your soul, compliment yourself, pamper yourself, smile at yourself, think positive thoughts, and speak life. Watch how you talk to yourself – because you are listening.” – Germany Kent.
Another way to self-love is, to be honest with yourself. By talking to your inner child, you will understand your underlying need and convince yourself how great you are. Even if there is a time that you make a mistake, don’t hold on to the moment. Think that you have done your best, withdraw lessons for yourself and move on.
3. Know your strength and use them
“Know your strengths and take advantage of them.” – Greg Norman.
Every person was born in this world has a mission, ability, and strength in doing something. If you know your strengths and focus all your resources and energy to utilize them, you will live your life more fully.
4. Don’t compare yourself with others.
“Don’t compare yourself with others; you have no idea what their journey is all about.” – Dawn Abraham.
Everyone has a different starting point and background. There is no parameter to compare others’ success with yourself since their environment and journey are different. You are a unique person who has your unique strength and ability to do something different from them.
5. Accept the fact that some people don’t like you.
“No matter how many people like you and your work, it doesn’t matter if you don’t like yourself.” – Cara Delevingne.
While there are seven billion people globally, no one can gain the popularity or fancy of the whole world. More or less, people will not fancy the way you are because we have different mindsets and hobbies. Do what you think is right, and you will achieve success later.
6. Ask for help when you need
“Sometimes asking for help also means you are helping yourself.” – Renuka Pitre.
It’s good that you love to be independent, but it would take time to struggle to find the solution yourself. Let’s make it easier by seeking help from other experienced people who are reliable and happy to support your issues.
7. Give yourself healthy treats.
“It’s not selfish to love yourself, take care of yourself, and make your happiness a priority. It’s necessary.” – Mandy Hale.
Sometimes we are too busy in this life to take care of the people surrounding us. We want to be perfectionists in many aspects. But it would be best if you were taken care of, too. Those are cares for your body, your sleep, your nutrition to make you live healthily and, at the same time, spread positive energy to surrounding people.
8. Say no when you need to
“It’s only by saying No then you can concentrate on the things that are really important” – Steve Jobs.
You don’t need to say yes to any requests if you don’t want to. If you are not in the mood to do something, say no when you need to. Don’t force yourself to please others; it’s better to please yourself.
9. Stand up for yourself.
“Develop enough courage so that you can stand up for yourself and then stand up for somebody else.” – Maya Angelou.
You have your own opinion about one matter; you know what is best for you, so stand up for yourself, show your opinion so others can understand what matters to your interest, and attract what you want in life.
10. Learn to forgive yourself for bigger stuff
“Forgiving yourself, believing in yourself, and choosing to love yourself are the best gifts one could receive.”- Brittany Burgunder.
Sometimes we are just holding on to the moment of regrets for so long that we miss the chance to do bigger stuff. Chances are, you can’t change what you did in the past, and you already did your best. Thereby, learning to self-forgiveness bit by bit, move forward with the experience you have, you will have more opportunity to live more happily.
11. Find a hobby
“A hobby a day keep the doldrums away.” – Phyllis McGinley.
Another right way to love yourself is finding a hobby you want to pursue, such as taking a dancing class, yoga class, or cooking. Doing your hobbies will not only help you focus your energy on the things you love. Likewise, you will also attract great energy to do what you want to achieve in your life.
12. Practice gratitude
“It’s a funny thing about life; once you begin to take note of the things you are grateful for, you begin to lose sight of the things that you lack.” – Germany Kent.
While there are so many people on earth who have no home, not have enough food and not have clean water to drink, you have a roof to avoid the rainy, and sunny days, you are lucky enough to stay here with a healthy body. Sometimes the busy and stressful life makes us forget and take those things for granted. Let’s practice gratitude about what you are having and enjoy the moment of being in this present; you will know how to love yourself at your best.
13. Surround yourself with people who love and respect you
“To all the other dreamers out there, don’t ever stop or let the world’s negativity disenchant you or your spirit to all the other dreamers out there. If you surround yourself with love and the right people, anything is possible.” Adam Green.
Who you meet will reflect the feeling on yourself. Surround yourself with people who are negative and unkind to you will make you feel down. Thereby, knowing to love yourself by meeting positive people will make you feel more worthy of love.
14. Mind your feeling
“It’s only when we are deeply connected to our inner self that we can sustain our contribution to this world.” – Venugopal Acharya.
Sometimes, you feel down, not happy about where you are, surrounded by negative thoughts that affect your attitude and behavior in life. If you are sad for some reason, mind your feelings, have the moment for yourself, so you can choose the attitude towards it, accept the sadness, write it down, or letting it go is your final decision. In anyways, being mindful of your feelings would be helpful would help you a lot.
15. Keep promises to yourself.
“To be responsible, keep your promises to others. To be successful, keep your promises to yourself.” – Marie Forleo.
The most important person you need to keep promised is yourself, who gives you the energy to do everything you want. Set your small goals and bigger goals to keep yourself focused on what you want in life. The universe will help you to pay attention to what you need to do.
In a nutshell, the world is making each individual become their true self. Self-love helps people understand themselves, think of themselves, and treat themselves the right way to achieve happiness and well-being.
There are various ways to love yourself more every day, such as being truly present, being honest with yourself, knowing your strength and taking advantage of them, not comparing yourself with others, and accepting that someone won’t like you. Besides, there are more ways to love yourself: asking for help when you need it, saying no when you need to, practicing gratitude, minding your feeling, forgive yourself for whatever happened in the past and keep promises to yourself.
By self-loving, you will be optimistic, learn to deal with difficulties in life, help people understand how they need to treat you to make you happy. Self-loving also makes you become more attractive, energetic and makes people treat you the way you want and love you about who you are. You will surely attract what you want the universe to.